confessingadventuretime:

pesamientossuicidas:

Eclipse lunar 2014

For those of us (me) who didn’t see it because of damn clouds

confessingadventuretime:

pesamientossuicidas:

Eclipse lunar 2014

For those of us (me) who didn’t see it because of damn clouds

why you don’t see a lot of “nice” SJ bloggers:

misandryad:

theroguefeminist:

  1. people take advantage of your niceness to exploit you as a “source” of information - bombarding you with questions/requests with no respect for your boundaries/limitations
  2. give you backhanded compliments on your niceness at the expense of less nice “unreasonable” feminists/activists/others in your group
  3. use your nice statements as arguments against less nice activists/ people in your group or to excuse/justify oppressive behavior
  4. take your niceness as an invitation to enter your space even if they have a bigoted mindset because they find your space comfortable/safe (making it less safe for you)
  5. use your niceness as the basis for creating a false “middle ground” on issues of oppression and/or painting oppressive behaviors as mere mistakes or as a “gray area”
  6. the things we are upset about or denounce are usually upheld and praised and we are working to counteract those messages and create spaces where those things are unacceptable/not upheld as ideal
  7. lastly, niceness in the oppressed is usually defined by the privileged as being docile/acquiescent- basically being complicit in or enabling oppression and activists are by definition not these things. see [x]

laughs weakly

helloradness:

i dont know what my aesthetic is but im pretty sure it’s exactly this tweet

helloradness:

i dont know what my aesthetic is but im pretty sure it’s exactly this tweet

The reasons I use he/him/his pronouns are not even that good and I should just go full neutral because I identify with male-ness as much as I do with femaleness which is Not At All.

221cbakerstreet:

how about for day of silence straight people have to be quiet and listen to queer people all day

My friend Theresa gave me one of her copies of LumberJanes today and my eyes were full of sparkles and wonder and I’m so happy. Now I have to get her something nice, but i don’t know what D:

coeurandrogyne:

salizaar:

"Snarky mage"
ayyyoooooo

resourceful mentor
not very badass but p cool

heroic anti-hero is kinda… weird. right? like anti-heroes aren’t necessarily supposed to act heroic.

coeurandrogyne:

salizaar:

"Snarky mage"

ayyyoooooo

resourceful mentor

not very badass but p cool

heroic anti-hero is kinda… weird. right? like anti-heroes aren’t necessarily supposed to act heroic.

Geography Club (2013)  part 2

I’m only attracted to queerness in men, not men themselves.

cocksucking-accent:

owning-my-truth:

Andrew Christian, “The Audition” Video -  Reifying White Supremacy in the LGBTQ Community (NSFW)

Every Monday I review media as part of my weekly “Media Review Mondays” series. This is the first installment of this series.

As a black gay man, the blatant white supremacy and antiblackness in the LGBTQ community no longer comes as much of a surprise to me. I’ve grown accustomed to the racist pronouncements of white gay men, who are so incredibly entitled and feel like their experiences with homophobia somehow gives them license to spew racist filth. With the vast majority of white gay men I’ve encountered, they either openly say that they’re “just not into black guys” and ignore the fact that our economies of attraction do not exist in a vacuum, so that they can cling to their white supremacist ideals and standards of beauty. Or, alternatively, they fetishize me and my blackness with their “jungle fever” and being “really into black guys.” There is almost never any in between with them, very little space for my humanity to be acknowledged and for them to not homogenize me and all black men into some dark, exotic mass to be consumed or vilified.

[image description: A screencap from “The Audition” video featuring 5 of the male models. All are white, muscled and wearing tight underwear]

And so already at 23, my expectations of white gay men are incredibly low. But still, for whatever reason, this video advertisement for Andew Christian still stunned me. Andrew Christian is a white gay male underwear and swimsuit designer whose line heavily targets the gay community. The video makes clear, though, who he sees as counting in said community.

We are introduced to the video as an audition for models to win a ticket to Matinee Las Vegas, a large annual Gay Dance Festival. The judges, include Davey Wavey, Pandora Boxx and Todrick Hall (the only judge of color), and together they judge who wins a ticket based on the attractiveness of the contestant (in their eyes).

[image description: The judges from “The Audition” video. From right: Todrick Hall, Davey Wavey, Andrew Christian and Pandora Boxx. All are holding up “10”s for a white contestant]

Begin white supremacist trainwreck.

Of course, the several contestants whom they judge over the course of the video are almost all white or white passing. Many (heterosexual) people may be surprised to know that the “progressive” LGBTQ community is far from a safe space and is as virulently white supremacist as the rest of our society. The video’s parade of white beauty and blatant exclusion of non-white passing MOC, besides one lone black model, should therefore come as no surprise. This is “the gay community” in their minds, and there is no space for us QMOC in it.

[image description: Screencap from “The Audition” video showing black male model, Indar Smith, winking]

The part of the video which gave me the most pause, though, was seeing the treatment of the token black guy, Indar Smith, they threw into the mix. As he walks onto stage, the last contestant, I cringed not knowing what racist fuckery was to come next. He becomes a spectacle, as many of the other contestants had, but one cannot tell the real reason for his particular objectification until the final moments of the video when this happens: 

[image description: Animated gif image from “The Audition” video showing Pandora Boxx being led off camera by Indar Smith. She holds up the sign, “Once U Go Black” and smirks as she walks off camera with him]

Yes, “Once U Go Black” being touted about by Pandora Boxx, a white person, as they walk off stage with the only black guy in the video.

And so in the midst of this white supremacist spectacle of a video, the only non-white passing MOC becomes a fetishized object and spectacle before the white gaze.

The fact that Todrick Hall is in the video and was the first one to use the sign, “Once U Go Black” is no excuse. We forget that as POC, we can indeed fetishize ourselves and do so quite often. Moreover, Todrick Hall has been one whom I’ve never really been a fan of for his constant stream of modern minstrel style performances on Youtube. One lesson that people must come to realize is that having one or two black people included in your video does not an anti-racist video make, as many of us POC readily can and do buy into white supremacy and the enshrinement of white supremacist aesthetics in larger culture. This video, between the parade of white bodies as the standard of beauty and the blatant exotification and fetishization of the sole black contestant, is so indicative of this fact.

Overall “The Audition” provides the viewer with clear insight into the value systems which the gay male community as a whole ascribes to: white supremacy. There is also some fatphobia thrown into the mix as well, of course, as they mock the one fat contestant in the competition and boo him off stage. In addition to this the utter exclusion of non white passing MOC, besides one, and the complete tokenization, debasement and fetishization of the one black guy in the video, really stood out to me personaly as a queer black man myself. It reflected many of my own experiences with white gay men and facing white supremacist standards of beauty within the community, and of course it was in a predominantly white gay bar this past weekend that I happened to see this video.

Shortly after the video played, a white gay guy I had recently met got a notification from a black guy on Grindr. He turned to me and the group and remarked nonchalantly: 

“Wow this guy has an amazing body… but he’s black” 

And with that I was officially done. And the same goes for my feelings about this trainwreck of a video.

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So I finally watched this because when I first reblogged it I was at work and read the post but didn’t see the video.

Anyway I also wanna bring two more issues with this video which perfectly reflect issues with the gay community:

1) Fat shaming and how the one dude who’s even remotely “chubby” (read: has an average body rather than a six-pack) is seen as disgusting from the get-go. The fact that he can’t dance (nor could some of the “hot” guys either, they just pose their stomachs and that’s it) is added as comic relief so viewers won’t feel bad about disliking him from the beginning. Moving well is absolutely secondary to having a “gym body.”

2) Trans people - There’s this fascinating phenomena in the gay community in which trans guys do not exist and aren’t desirable (by anyone of any orientation, actually), non-binaries of course aren’t recognized, and trans women are… Peculiar. Somehow, a binary trans woman who identifies as a woman and presents and lives as one ISN’T seen as a woman (trans or otherwise). She’s still a dude, and as invisible and undesirable as the trans dudes and non-binaries up there. But, and here’s the interesting part, a drag queen who identifies as male and lives and primarily presents as male, is totally seen as a woman. A drag queen dressed up is properly gendered and addressed, and every fag around joins in the game of playing chivalrous and playing straight for this ~woman~ in the room. By this I do not mean there aren’t drag queens who are trans, or trans women who either started as queens or continue to do drag. (Or any other kind of trans person, really.) But it’s amazing how trans people only exist and are represented (let alone desirable, even if ironically) when they’re a performance, played to white cisgays’ interests.

Gay culture’s rotten, y’all. White cisgays are awful people.