Are You Checking Me Out Or Trying To Figure Out My Gender: A Life Story.
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I WANT THIS BOOK SO BAD BUT LITERALLY NO STORE WITHIN 100 MILES OF ME HAS IT IN STOCK ;____;
cries because i will never be this handsome
Here are some reaction badges for when people troll you with their bullshit and ignorance.
queer hogwarts kids making buttons w/ preferred pronouns on them that are charmed to yell when ppl use the wrong ones
I was at a party and met someone who asked to be referred to with a neutral pronoun. I accidentally called them “she” and when they corrected me, quickly and non-aggressively, I repeated myself with the correct pronoun. They did it in the best way they could have, and even so it gave me incredibly intense anxiety and not only did I find conversation with that group difficult because of how anxious I was not to mess up again, I felt like a grandly shitty person for having called them she. It ended up getting to the point where I left and cried in the bathroom, where I was found and reassured that they weren’t offended and that it was normal for people to mess up a few times at first. It was my first time meeting someone who openly preferred neutral pronouns and I had no idea if I was being incredibly offensive.
Fuck anyone who thinks a button like that is a good idea. I understand that being called the wrong pronoun may be uncomfortable for you, but consider that years (what is probably DECADES) of conditioning might make it difficult for some people. If you want people to be sensitive to you, try being sensitive to them.
If someone is deliberately/rudely calling you the wrong pronoun, say something yourself.
holy moly holy moly holy moly holy moly im sorry this is veyr rude of me but Holy Moly do you really think your feelings are the priority here
the original post is a cute hyperbolic what-if idea by someone who is frequently misgendered and who took maybe 30 seconds to imagine a magical (and yes, slightly aggressive) alternative to, you know, needing to constantly correct others who just don’t get it
your response is weird and also 100% irrelevant. it’s incredibly conceited of you to even think that your input is at all necessary here. it’s a post about Magical Talking Pronoun Buttons For Trans* Kids. no one needs to hear your attempt at playing the victim.
also oh wow that last part. i like how you expect every trans* kid to be flawlessly composed and patient while you yourself talk about being anxious/overwhelmed. a lot of people have trouble speaking up about this kind of thing!!! if you were anxious about making a mistake that could be hurtful, imagine how anxious someone would be who was actually, uh, being hurt, like by someone willfully misgendering them— a situation you brought up yourself at the end there!
basically: a magical yelling pronoun button would be pretty darn great for kids who are all too used to being silenced whenever they try to express their feelings or identity or right to be respected, or whenever they dare to express a feeling other than calm, accepting patience towards people who are Shitty To Them whether it’s by mistake or not and
by all of that i mean such buttons would be great for kids who are all too used to being silenced by guilt-tripping people like you.
So there’s this trans* guy at school who always feels the need to tell me about his struggles and ask me if I want to be on hormones and all that jazz. Telling em how hormones should be at the top of my needs list, or at least being legally recognized as trans*, when right now I’m more worried about, you know, being alive. He ends up triggering my every time I talk to him. Literally every single time.
But it also reaffirms my identity every time I talk to him. I’m not FtM, I’m non-op and probably non-hormones and I’m queer as fuck and refuse to conform to binarist, cissexist bullshit because that’s how everyone thinks I should be.
That whole being nice, playing nice, accommodating everyone, trying to get normative folks “on my side”? It has been my experience that this does not actually work because people are more concerned with policing the *way oppressed groups express themselves* than they are *fighting the actual oppression*.
Has it occurred to you that people are angry because they have a reason to be angry?
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A night of genderQueer readings with Jiz Lee, Sam Rosenthal, Carol Queen, and more!
Saturday, May 4, 2013 7:00pm until 9:30pm
An exciting evening of readings from beyond the gender binary. Doors at 7pm, readings at 7:30
Center for Sex & Culture (1349 Mission btw 9th and 10th)
SAM ROSENTHAL visits from Brooklyn to present work from his erotic genderQueer romance novel Rye. Genderqueer porn star JIZ LEE’s reads new work; their writing recently appeared in the Feminist Porn Book! CAROL QUEEN, author, sexologist, and pillar of the sex-positive feminism movement presents new work of personal discovery and insight. Plus more writings from people along the gender spectrum and those who love them including: Gina de Vries, Seeley Quest, and Marilyn Roxie.
Suggested donation $5-20 sliding scale, NOTAFLOF.
Reminder that I’m (Marilyn Roxie) going to be reading at this event along with some other cool people!
Do not EVER EVER call a trans* person or a human being an “it.”
Unless that is their preferred pronoun, of course.